I was sharing a company apartment with a colleague in USA for few weeks. Met her first time there only. Didn’t know her much. I was walking to office daily. 20 min walk with my laptop backpack. She started staying with her other friends. First She asked me to bring her a cookware; I did. It was helping gesture; I didn’t think of it much.

One day she asked me to bring her laptop bag, must be around 9 kg; knowing well that I walk to office.

I said “No” because we should draw a line; we cannot let people start taking unfair advantage.

I think you situation is similar. I didn’t see a point bringing in feminism in my case. You are trying to sully feminism. Please don’t! It’s bigger than this petty selfishness.